On the issue of online dating, or even dating in general, the Bible is void of examples.

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You’re not swiping a real person; you are swiping a veneer.

They might end up being the biggest pain of your existence, and they might be really good at keeping that from you until they choose to let you know. You have to be really good at getting to know the real person.

We are marrying later, marrying less, and those marriages are failing more often.

WE ARE DOING SOMETHING WRONG (fact) and I believe it has to do with how we date. It’s no secret that in biblical times, our example was arranged marriages.

I’m not advocating arranged marriages, but I am strongly advocating the The principles there are that you don’t make these decisions in isolation; that wise people who know you very well and care about you very much are in favor of it; and that decisions are based on who the person really is, as evidenced by how they act even before meeting you. First of all, I’m sure you know someone who met online and has a “happy” marriage (so do I). However, there are some things about online dating that can make it less likely to work out.

Online dating adds another step to the “dog and pony” show of dating. And to paraphrase Proverbs , profiles are deceiving and pictures are fleeting.

Since we started this series on answering dating questions, one of the things I’ve been asked about the most is my opinion of online dating or dating apps.

Hopefully, people don’t just want my opinion on anything, but rather want to know what the Bible says on the issue.

Jesus said, “Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple” (Luke ). If you know what you are looking for the way I have tried to describe it, I would think you could rule out a lot of losers by using the Internet.

The Christian man or woman who wants to marry a follower of Jesus must look for a spouse who has learned what it is to die to self in allegiance to Jesus. It won’t take long to learn from Facebook and Twitter and blogs if this man or woman is passionate for Jesus or if Jesus is an incidental mark on the shoulder or a trinket around the neck.

What saddens me is how many believers get so entangled emotionally with unbelievers that they either throw away their convictions or they stand on their heads to see the other person as a believer when he or she is not. A mature believer will want his or her spouse not just to profess some creed or be willing to go to church.