You can’t do anything about your roots and religion (or the lack of). Maybe you’ve decided that you want to convert to please the family (mostly the mother) of your loved one.

Eventually, the polite talk will get stuck on one and only one subject – conversion. In the worst case scenario, in the eyes of a very religious Jewish mother, even conversion won’t make you good enough for her son. Maybe you even started to believe in Judaism or have found some other important reason to convert. Well, the Jewish mother has tons of qualities that you don’t have.

I was living in this kind of bubble for a long time and I was very surprised when I moved to Israel a few years later.

When I became a single and started to date other Israeli men, I realized how connected they were to their mothers and the important role that religion played in their lives.

Be sure that you know what you want and stand up for it.

As much as I like going with the flow, I find that being clear about the conversion issue from the beginning is very important.

Back then, I didn’t really understand how lucky I was – neither he nor his family cared that I wasn’t Jewish, and I believed that was a normal situation.

It’s not that they didn’t mind me being a Christian; they were atheist and didn’t care about religion at all.

None of them cared about my religion or knitting skills.

Unfortunately, soon enough life showed me that they were rare exceptions.

I’ve been living in Israel for almost three years but I’ve been connected to this sunny country for more than that.