Nothing is a big deal unless it's an actual Big Deal.

Even though I modeled it for jokes above, I resisted the urge to actually don and sport it around. Every situation is different, but my boyfriend is still on amicable terms with his child's mother, who also lives near us.

Matters are so peachy that she even shared me on a Google Calendar she, her boyfriend, and my boyfriend share re: who has chief parenting duties when (it's half-and-half, really).

Then when I met a charming, handsome dude with good taste in music and tacos at a secret Santa vinyl swap party last winter, I started dating one.

Suddenly the jokes seemed a little creepy, and although I actively pumped the brakes on making them, those familiar with my menagerie of hot dad puns rose a skeptical eyebrow. Hotness aside, there's some unexpected things that happen when you date a single dad.

It inspires you to be more mindful of your own spending habits. Like when you're running late to meet a friend because you're stuck in a child-stuffed lantern parade one town over, you're not allowed to bitch and force your S. to help you summon an Uber to pick you up, STAT—because he's too busy pushing the kid on a skateboard inside the festivities to indulge your princess agenda.

As such—So when the kid asks, "Why are you wearing lipstick? It makes you take a more discerning look at this princess agenda and brainstorm ways to be more reasonable in general.He also doesn't panic about periods or farts or other body stuff.Cleaning is one of my favorite forms of therapy, likely because if I'm in a highly cluttered space physically, that transfers mentally and makes me feel like a stressed-out trashcan.Very early in this relationship, I suggested I help my boyfriend with an intense cleaning sesh of his kitchen.We had a lot of wine and played loud punk and soon it was gleaming. With a child and full-time job and other luxurious duties such as bathing oneself and staying fed (AND keeping the kid fed), cleaning falls to the wayside.A man willing and thrilled to take on the dad role shows commitment.