You know those exciting new relationships where you call the person 300 times, send them a string of texts, and then turn up at their work to see why they’re not replying? While this may sound like unusual behaviour to most people, it’s just a glimpse into the many dating adventures I’ve had as a queer autistic woman.

I’ve also fallen madly, desperately in love with someone after two weeks.

Being single has its advantages, but it also entails many Q&A, and I don’t score well in Q&A – basically, unless the questions are concise, I may misinterpret it and result in giving irrelevant answers. I mean, the idea of falling in love and being in love is nice, but if there is anything that I learn from the previous relationship, it would be that a man who fails to take the effort to see and appreciate me for whom I am, should not deserve me. We look normal, and for some of us, we excel in performance at work and studies exceedingly – sometimes accomplishing more than the neurotypical.

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I received a formal diagnosis of Asperger’s - or Autism Spectrum Disorder Level 1 (ASD) if we’re being fancy - a year ago. Before this, I’d been through three decades of confusing social interactions and struggled to make friends.

Plus, my romantic relationships got shorter and shorter, until I pretty much just gave up.

My wife and I plan to start a family soon, but the thought of having so many examinations is almost enough to put me off all together.

Luckily, she’s really patient with me and understands when I'm having one of those, “Don't touch me” days.

Read other materials relating to Asperger’s, such as Safety Skills for Asperger Women (Traits and experiences written by Liane Holliday Willey are impeccably relevant to my own) Asperger’s Asperger’s falls in the grey area of the autism spectrum.

It’s a slippery slope thinking process (aka faulty thinking) – I look normal; therefore I am normal; I am normal, therefore I must behave normal; I behave normal, therefore Asperger’s is not real.

Another aspect of my personal life that’s impacted by autism is my gender identity.

In college, as a depressed 18-year-old, I was convinced I was assigned the wrong gender at birth, and seriously considered transitioning. And I went through the same gender dysphoria last month.

It cannot be ‘cured’, but the anxieties and negative traits be managed.

I’ve learned - and truly believe - the best way to feel better about something is to accept it.

It can result in noises or gentle touches causing us to feel physical pain. I‘ve never had a sex with a man, in fact I always found it difficult to even allow them to touch me in anyway.